So what are you going to say to your child while their going through a loss of a pet? Uh. Hard one isn't it? Well I can relate to this situation. I had just returned from the vet's office where they told me there was nothing more they could do for my dog and it was time has come to put him down. At that moment my heart just dropped. Moments later, while driving in the car one overwhelming question takes hold, "What am I going to say to my child?" Well here are some guidelines to help you and your child deal with this type of event: 1. Communicate honestly and clearly with your child. Talk in clear and direct terms that do not create confusion. For example, many people use the term "put to sleep" in lieu of euthanasia. It is important to use direct language to describe what is happening so that the child does misinterpret this information and think that the dog will just be sleeping for a long time and thats not the case. 2.Meet your child at their level of understanding. A 9 year old can understand that their pet is not coming back, as to a 3 year old has no concept of the permanence of death. 3. Allow your child to express their feelings about the loss. This means taking the time to really listen to what they say or do. Often young children do not have the words or the ability to identify their feelings and may express their sadness as anger or hostility. Sometimes children will act out the death through their play, creating a mock death scene and burial using action figures, blocks or favorite toys. Make sure their teacher knows about the death as well. Teachers can be a great resource and support to your child at this difficult time, especially for elementary and pre-school children. 4.Be a healthy role model for your child. Children learn how to deal with death from watching their parents. Accept your grief as a normal reaction to death. Hope these points are helpful in some way. For those who are currently going through a loss, God bless you and be with you during these rough times.
